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Gottman Method

Intense Couples Therapy

What is the Gottman Method?

The Gottman Method is an approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the couple’s relationship and integrates research-based interventions based on the Sound Relationship House Theory. The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication; increase intimacy, respect, and affection; remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy; and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship.


The Gottman Method is a research-based couples therapy approach that aims to help couples build stronger, more fulfilling relationships by improving communication, increasing intimacy, and addressing conflict. Here are some potential benefits of the Gottman Method:

  1. Improved communication: The Gottman Method emphasizes the importance of healthy communication skills in a relationship. Couples who practice the skills taught in this method are better equipped to communicate effectively, express their needs and feelings, and listen actively.

  2. Increased emotional connection: The Gottman Method encourages couples to build a strong emotional connection by nurturing fondness and admiration for each other, expressing appreciation, and creating shared meaning.

  3. Enhanced conflict resolution: The Gottman Method provides couples with tools to effectively manage and resolve conflict in a respectful and constructive manner, leading to increased understanding and deeper emotional intimacy.

  4. Prevention of relationship deterioration: The Gottman Method is designed to help couples identify and address issues before they become major problems, preventing relationship deterioration over time.

  5. Improved physical health: Research has shown that a strong, healthy relationship can have a positive impact on physical health, including reducing the risk of heart disease, stroke, and other chronic illnesses.

Overall, the Gottman Method is an evidence-based approach to couples therapy that can help couples build stronger, more fulfilling relationships by improving communication, increasing emotional connection, and addressing conflict in a healthy and productive way.


The Gottman Method is a couples therapy approach designed to help couples improve their relationship and build a strong, healthy, and fulfilling partnership. The method is appropriate for couples who are in a committed relationship, whether they are married, engaged, or in a long-term partnership.


The Gottman Method can be helpful for couples who are experiencing a variety of challenges in their relationship, such as communication difficulties, frequent conflicts, emotional disconnection, lack of intimacy, or issues related to trust, infidelity, or parenting. The method can also be helpful for couples who want to strengthen their relationship and deepen their emotional connection, even if they are not experiencing significant challenges.


During a Gottman Method couples therapy session, the therapist works with the couple to identify and address specific areas of concern in their relationship. Here are some of the key components of a typical Gottman Method session:

  1. Assessment: The therapist will start by assessing the couple's relationship using a variety of tools, such as questionnaires, interviews, and observations. This helps to identify areas of strength as well as areas that need improvement.

  2. Feedback: Based on the assessment, the therapist will provide the couple with feedback on their relationship, highlighting strengths and identifying areas for improvement.

  3. Goal setting: The therapist and couple will work together to set specific goals for the therapy sessions, such as improving communication, building trust, or increasing intimacy.

  4. Skill building: The therapist will teach the couple specific skills and techniques for improving their relationship, such as effective communication strategies, ways to manage conflict, or ways to increase emotional connection.

  5. Practice exercises: The therapist may assign homework exercises for the couple to practice between sessions, such as practicing active listening or having a weekly date night.

  6. Monitoring progress: The therapist will monitor the couple's progress toward their goals and make adjustments to the therapy plan as needed.

Overall, the Gottman Method is a structured and collaborative approach to couples therapy that focuses on building skills, improving communication, and addressing specific areas of concern in the relationship. The therapist works closely with the couple to identify goals and provide guidance and support as they work to improve their relationship.

"When we know that our partner cares about us and what we are going through, it becomes easier to show that caring in return. Focus on that part of you that cares for the other and give them the chance to care for you."
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